Monday, May 14, 2012

The Male Mind: Findings From Male POV Books


Okay, so the last kick I was on was unhappy endings. The latest?

Books with male POVs. Dead to You (McMann), will grayson, Will Grayson (Green & Levithan), Breathing Underwater (Flinn)…

Whether old or new, fifteen-year-old protag or seventeen, I’m starting to pick up on how males think. How their brains work. How they see things, process things. And comparing it to my trusty old copy of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus (Gray) that’s been on my shelf since I graduated high school, my findings weren’t too far off. Or maybe the authors were just spot on.

Curious?

Thought so. Here’s what I’ve come up with:



~Males tend to process information internally. (While a female will talk over her situation with friends, a guy will think through his problems in private.)



~Males internalize rather than verbalize when in search of an answer. (If he does discuss the situation, he wants answers not support.)



~Because males typically don’t discuss their problems, they use fewer words than females. (Plus, they’re likely to discuss facts and opinions rather than feelings.)



~Males are not detail-oriented, at least not in the area of observation. They are fixated on the big picture. When a male walks into a room, it’s unlikely he’ll notice the pattern on the couch pillows or the fragrance of flowers in a vase. (I tested this out on my husband, asked him what I’d been wearing the day before. He had no idea. Then asked him what color the carpet was in our friend’s house after we left—no clue.)



~While females multi-task effortlessly, males tend to concentrate on one thing at a time. Males focus better than females, who rely more on subtle cognizance. Once a man decides a course of action, little can distract him.



~Due to the amount of testosterone a male’s brain receives before he is born, he cannot think both logically and emotionally at the same time. Therefore, when a guy offers a logical explanation, a girl’s emotional reasoning basically doesn’t compute. And when a guy becomes upset, rationalizing with him is problematic as logic has gone out the window at that point.



~Females strive for emotional connections while males seek to connect physically. Feelings of love in a male come first from physical attraction and contact. Emotional attachment follows.



While surroundings, upbringing, and personality type also affect a male’s actions and reactions, this is just a basis that I’ve found to be apparent in the recent books I’ve read. I still have a huge TBR pile of male POV books to get through so most likely there’ll be a follow up post to this one.



What do you think? Did I miss any?


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1 comment:

  1. I love this! It rings so true and is summed up so nicely. I'll be sharing this with others. Thanks for the post! =)

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