Monday, September 17, 2012

Remembering To Live

For once in my life, excluding high school, I’m actually busy. I have a life. Between working a 9-5, being a bridesmaid, helping my sister plan a wedding, and everything else that seems to come my way I’m just…tired. And that leaves little room for writing. Did you notice that? In less than 4 lines I’ve already made 2 excuses – but I’m not the only offender. Some of you reading this are in my boat or have been. If you have been I’d really like you to weigh in below. I know writing is important considering that I want to be an author and I truly enjoy it.  When I think about world building and the relationship between my characters I get butterflies – full on, junior high, first kiss butterflies. So, why am I neglecting something so important? And how can I fix it?

<!--[if !supportLists]-->1.       <!--[endif]-->CULPRIT: Time.
SOLUTION: I’m starting on the smaller side with this one…bear with me. I used to commute an hour and a half to work but in order to make time I’ve started taking the train. It’s an hour (roundtrip) of uninterrupted time that I can write, read, or blog. It may seem miniscule but it’s already leaps and bounds above what I’ve been doing. Hypothetically, if I write 1,000 a day while riding and continue my 1k a day on the weekend I’ll almost have my novel done in 2 months. Can I get a holler? …No? Okay, moving on.

<!--[if !supportLists]-->2.      CULPRIT: Sleep.
SOLUTION: omgiluvsleep. Seriously. Sleep is my favorite past time and I know once I get married and have kids I won’t get much of it. While sleep provides a happy Haylee, and more often than not some rather crazy inspiration, it severely cuts into my writing. Is it sick that I wish I was an insomniac? Now I’m opting to use sleep as a reward. What? Yeah, I just admitted that I’m rewarding myself with a 9 o clock bed time, so what? If I hit my word quota for the day, we’ll say 1,500 words, I get to go to bed at 9. If I don’t…I stay up until I meet it. I may be a groggy mess the next morning, but if you want it you have to work for it. Sacrifices must be made! *cue Eye of the Tiger*… J
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<!--[if !supportLists]-->3.      CULPRIT: Relationships.
SOLUTION: It sounds awful that I would refer to people as “culprits” but let’s be honest…no one understands you. Unless they’re a writer too. No one gets that you are working two full-time jobs, whether you’re a stay at home mom or a 9-5er like me. Until you make it big or you have enough money to support your habit, you’re pulling double duty. Your relationships shouldn’t suffer though. While playing the Sims (don’t judge me) one day the helpful tips bubble came up and said, “Friendships are like flowers”. True, true. Such profound advice from a game. But it’s absolutely on the money! If you don’t tend to your relationships they wither and die. So…how do you balance? You find ways to bring them into your world, to help them understand. When I lived with the lovely Jolene Haley, we used to host creative nights on Thursdays. We had writers, painters, candlestick makers – okay, maybe not, but you get the point. We ate delicious pizza and reveled in each other’s triumphs. Find ways to do that with your relationships. On days that I need to meet a word quota I’ll sit on the couch with my boyfriend. He watches a show I don’t like and I write. It’s nice to steal kisses in between. You’ll have to find what works for you.

Ultimately we all live crazy lives. And if we don’t, we write about them. I leave you with this quote, 10 points if you can name who said it, “It doesn’t do well to dwell on dreams and forget to live.” Chase your dreams, make them true, but live a life worth writing about. That’s my goal. J
Thoughts? Opinions? I’d love to hear them!

1 comment:

  1. YES! I love this post because it's so absolutely true! Every single thing that you mentioned, are the same things that keep me from writing daily or productively. I appreciate the answers/tips you've provided here too. All very doable!

    And you're write, the creative nights we had were some of my favorite things ever!!

    The point here, that everyone needs to take away, is that if it's important to you, you will make time. It doesn't make you a bad person if you write, or if you don't. But if it truly matters to you, you won't put it aside.

    Great post and pep-talk Haylee! Thank you!